Run your home and co-parent calmly
A self-paced course in the Proactive Family method. You set up Claude, the AI assistant, so it knows your children, your household and your parenting plan from the documents themselves - and you stop re-explaining your life every time you need help.
Needs a paid Claude subscription. A course in a system - not legal advice, and not therapy.
A walkthrough with the Ferreiras, the course's invented family: their parenting plan goes in, and out come a residential calendar, a decisions register, an expense position, and a health summary and emergency card for each child.
Raising children across two homes runs on details nobody can find when they matter. They sit in email, folders, text messages and your own memory - and the moment you need them, at a clinic, a school meeting or a disagreement that's heating up, they're scattered.
What does the plan actually say?
Without re-reading twenty pages of it.
What did we agree in March?
And where was it written down?
Which doctor recommended what?
With the date, and the visit it came from.
Which costs were shared?
The receipts, the requests and the replies.
Co-parenting apps give two parents a shared set of screens - a calendar, a message thread, an expense list - that you keep up by entering things into them. The Proactive Family method works the other way round: you give Claude the real documents, and it builds what you need from them.
| Compared | A typical co-parenting app | Our Proactive Family |
|---|---|---|
| Where the information comes from | You type it into the app's forms. | Claude reads your orders, school calendars, visit summaries and receipts, and builds from them. |
| Getting an answer | You find the right screen, or go back to the order. | You ask in plain words. It answers from the orders and quotes the section. |
| What it produces | The screens the app was built with. | What your family needs: a residential calendar, a decisions register, an expense position, a health summary, an emergency card for a babysitter. |
| What it covers | What passes between the two parents. | Each child, your own file, your household and the co-parenting relationship. |
| Who has to join | Usually both parents. | Just you. Nothing changes for the other parent. |
| When things change | You wait for the app to add a feature. | You change a standing rule in a sentence, and it adapts. |
Already use a co-parenting app? Keep using it.
If your orders say to use one, they still do. This isn't a message channel between parents - it sits alongside whatever you use, and a message report you download from an app goes into your records like any other document.
Every conversation starts with context instead of a briefing. What the plan says about a decision takes seconds. A difficult message takes minutes, not an evening. Less gets lost between homes, and arguments about what was agreed mostly stop - because it was written down at the time.
The record that makes everyday life easier is the same record an attorney or mediator needs - already built. No scramble, no rebuilding a timeline from memory, far fewer billed hours. And it has to exist before you know whether you'll need it.
A year of calmer, better-organized co-parenting is worth the effort on its own. If things never reach a courtroom, nothing is wasted - and if they do, the hardest part is already done.
The method gives Claude a separate, organized space for each part of family life, so it always knows which details belong where.
School, health, activities - and the documents behind them.
Your own health, work and finances, kept apart from everything else.
House rules first - the running of the home.
The orders, the calendar, decisions and shared expenses.
Each space holds three things
The real documents. Orders, reports and letters, kept exactly as issued.
A short summary of what stays true. The handful of things that don't change month to month.
Standing rules. How Claude handles this space, every time, without reminding.
The Proactive Family method teaches restraint as much as capability: what not to record about your children, how to write everything as if a third party may one day read it, and how to keep the record honest as it ages.
A parent who gets this wrong can end up worse off than if they had never started. So it comes early in the course - before anything is loaded.
Every example uses one invented family, so you see the method working on real-looking documents - without anyone's real life in them.
Section 1 · Everyone
How the system works, mapping your spaces, and your first real win.
Section 2 · Everyone
Gathering what you have, what doesn't go in, a file for you and each child, running the week, keeping it true.
Section 3 · Separated parents
Loading the orders, writing to the other parent, joint decisions and scheduling, shared expenses, notes made at the time.
Section 4 · If you ever need it
Who's asking and what they need, a chronology someone can absorb in an hour, and what not to hand over.
Two ways to take it: the course on its own, or the course with a weekly 1:1 session to get your own setup working. Help is always about the system, never your case - how to record a decision, not which decision to make.
The principles apply anywhere. Anything procedural is written for Washington State and labeled as such.
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